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Category: Life In My Shoes

The Next Move

The Next Move

If I look back over the time I have been writing, I can say that I have had a focus on what it is I have wanted to work towards. The next move is possibly the most productive aspect that I have had in my life so far. I have looked into meditation, woke up early, tried to introduce habits into my life, eat, drink and sleep better. Although not an exhaustive list, it is one that has many more facets that I have already spoken about and will undoubtedly speak of again as I move to the transition phase of my life.

Mental Health and Nature’s Healing Hands

Mental Health and Nature’s Healing Hands

Being out in nature is a liking of mine since I could walk. I never really wanted to stay indoors or maybe this was due to mum wanting us out of the way? Off we would bounce into the great wide open to meet up […]

A Life Revamp Update

A Life Revamp Update

The revamp progress is one that I thought would be a difficult challenge. More than that, it is an uphill battle every day. AJ and I are at breaking point and I don’t know what to do. It seems that everything I touch turns to […]

Who Is In Charge?

Who Is In Charge?

A thought occurred to me before when looking at a magazine. Who is in charge of us? For all the goings on in our lives, what makes us take the decisions we do? The effect our decisions impact on our mental health can be massive. […]

Mental Health and Christmas

Mental Health and Christmas

Hi Everyone, I am looking for some help if you have the time? As part of my journey and one of the main problems we, as men, can face, is the thought of Christmas. I am hoping to write a book in relation to this […]

What Is Therapeutic?

What Is Therapeutic?

The dread of springtime is upon me for one thing….gardening. I don’t know what it is but it stares at me with its imposing presence, commanding me it needs to be tendered to. I am not sure where this comes from as when a child, […]

Trauma

Trauma

The movement of the crowd turned us around so that we were facing the opposite way whilst carried forward towards the pitch. In addition, blood-curdling sounds of what seemed to bone breaking with cries of pain coming from exhausted mouths. Although managing to be turned around, we faced the tunnel exit and I am sure to this day that my friend was unaware of what I thought I had experienced.

A Life of Two Halves

A Life of Two Halves

Trying something new is a challenge for anyone. Starting something new is a totally different ball game. Especially when you are a man of a certain age – well 48 to be exact! I decided a while ago that I needed to change the way […]

I Don’t Smile Anymore

I Don’t Smile Anymore

What happened to the smile I used to wear, spread across my face for all to see. An act that was so easy, personable and me. The smile has straightened one single line, a cardiograph, a monotone, no sort of style. Aching inside for a […]

Sometimes, I Feel……

Sometimes, I Feel……

The way you feel is so unreal To contend with this blanket of despair Tearful, guilt-ridden and low self-esteem, Are all just elements of my daily routine. Hopeless and helpless, sad and downtrodden, Where motivation and enjoyment are all but forgotten But hey, don’t fret, […]

The Ending Of A Relationship

The Ending Of A Relationship

When a relationship has ended, it is never easy for all involved. When children are involved it can be even worse. But how should you continue to act to ensure that you can maintain a level of consistency when being an ‘absent’ parent? The initial […]

Creating A Better You

Creating A Better You

The life that I have always wanted to have has, in some way, involved movement. Activity can be described as running, swimming, walking etc but I found a wonderful site on Facebook.   Ultimate Dad Transformation   Stefano Chiriaco has created a group called the […]

I Hate Myself….

I Hate Myself….

The two things that are certain in life, are death and taxes. A saying I am sure you have heard of. Other things that are prominent are items such as disappointment, selfishness, and self-absorption. What have I become to say these words that I hate […]

My Alcohol Decision – One Year No Beer

My Alcohol Decision – One Year No Beer

I love a drink. I always have done and I loved it so much that at times I could easily drink two bottles of red wine in a night, by myself. And with this, I could easily have drunk a few beers beforehand too!   […]

My Feelings Matter Too…

My Feelings Matter Too…

The way you feel is so unreal To contend with this blanket of despair Tearful, guilt-ridden and low self-esteem, Are all just elements of my daily routine. Hopeless and helpless, sad and downtrodden, Where motivation and enjoyment are all but forgotten But hey, don’t fret, […]

Loss – a non-professional view

Loss – a non-professional view

The News The day we were told that dad had lymphoma was not a difficult experience. We, however, found it difficult not knowing what it meant for us all. The look in Dad’s eyes suggested something wasn’t good. As far as I could gather, it was cancer. […]

Introducing Habit

Introducing Habit

At this stage in my life, I would really like to be more of a role model for others but more personally, for my son. I have tried in the past to go at full steam ahead and endeavor to go running, walking, swimming, hiking, […]

The week gone by…26th November 2018

The week gone by…26th November 2018

I guess for most people the start of the week is always difficult and for me, it was no exception. I have the doctors on Tuesday and I was quite worried about it as I do not feel any different to when I was there […]

The Onion Mindset

The Onion Mindset

We could all use a little help now and again and this is no exception. Whether our moods are really low due to depression, or anxiety, arguing with others, we all suffer and no sense of bravado does anyone any good. I understand that we […]

Is Negativity Helpful?

Is Negativity Helpful?

From a woman’s perspective a negative thought could be in the form of a gloomy outlook, fatalistic attitude or catastrophising an issue to name a few but what does it mean for us men? Typically, I feel as though half the time I am not […]